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How to deal with social media after pregnancy loss: 5 ways to protect yourself from more harm ?>

How to deal with social media after pregnancy loss: 5 ways to protect yourself from more harm

Hey there, brave and courageous people. Again a bit late with my newest blog post (life interfered once more with my nicely drawn up schedule) but this one has to get out as it is a topic very close to my hear. Today, I want to write about the curious beast that is social media. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and the like. We all like them but that is as long as we have happy and maybe ‘braggy’ things to share….

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Why we need to change our grief vocabulary – part III ?>

Why we need to change our grief vocabulary – part III

Welcome to the third and last post of my mini series about grief vocabulary. Part I and II were about what needs to be part of our grief vocabulary and what kind of attitude to pick when trying to comfort the grieving (http://karinholmes.com/we-need-to-change-our-grief-vocabulary-part-i/. and http://karinholmes.com/why-we-need-to-change-our-grief-vocabulary-part-ii/). This last part is about how we can use more empowering language to help us create a safe space to grieve. I’ve noticed recently that our language is quite defensive when we try or are forced…

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Why we need to change our grief vocabulary – part II ?>

Why we need to change our grief vocabulary – part II

Welcome to part two of my grief vocabulary mini series. In the first part, I wrote about what to say to someone who is grieving and why. In today’s post, I want to talk about what not to say and more importantly, the right attitude to go with expressing your sorrow. I have written before about what not to say and I have a whole section dedicated to those terrible phrases in my book ‘How to survive a miscarriage’ because…

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Why we need to change our grief vocabulary – part I ?>

Why we need to change our grief vocabulary – part I

Hello there, world! I am glad you are still around as it has been a bit quiet on my blog lately. That is about to change though which is great, don’t you think? 😀 I have been busy working with clients through my online grief counselling practice, which is very inspiring but leaves me little time to write. Or at least not as much as I’d like. However, recently I have come across the same thing again and again in…

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I talk about pregnancy loss and I am not sorry ?>

I talk about pregnancy loss and I am not sorry

I must have been living in a bit of a bubble. Up until recently, I thought people appreciated any effort made to raise awareness for pregnancy- and babyloss as it is not that often talked about. It seems that is not the case. I received my first reality check recently where I was advised that people find my Facebook page ‘How to survive a miscarriage’ embarrassing ( check it out here if you haven’t had a chance to do so…

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Kick self sabotage to the curb – 5 behaviours that stop us from healing and how to avoid them ?>

Kick self sabotage to the curb – 5 behaviours that stop us from healing and how to avoid them

Healing. As you know by now, I talk about it a lot, mostly in regards to self-care. You could say it is a passion of mine. I can’t really let go of it because I am still healing and I am trying to help others on their healing journey. So, naturally, I talk about it. That makes this blog post no less uncomfortable to write. Something has come up over and over again recently when I talked to other loss…

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How to make a New Year’s resolution that sticks while you grieve ?>

How to make a New Year’s resolution that sticks while you grieve

Does the New Year make you feel a bit meh? It kind of does with me. I admit, I am very, VERY glad 2016 is over. It was a very tough year and I am surprised I am still standing. So yeah, good riddance to 2016. Although, let’s not kid ourselves. The last year was meant to teach me a few lessons and I do think I learnt a lot through these very rough patches. I also believe that if…

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So you think ‘tough love’ is the way to go when comforting someone after loss? Think again. ?>

So you think ‘tough love’ is the way to go when comforting someone after loss? Think again.

  I never liked the phrase ‘tough love’. It makes no sense to me how being tough and love can go in the same sentence let alone work together. We are requested in life to be sometimes tough and put on a hard front, for example, when we are faced with a bully. Love, on the other hand, is the force that drives us, unites us and heals us on many occasions. It is powerful, positive, non judgmental, fuzzy and…

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Ho ho ho or no no no? 5 ways to survive the festive season while you grieve ?>

Ho ho ho or no no no? 5 ways to survive the festive season while you grieve

It’s that time of the year. Again. For some, the lead up to Christmas is the best time of the year. They get excited about it mid July and will tell you in 6 months it will be Christmas Day! Their joy is real and honest and they truly do love everything and anything about Christmas. Good on them.   Then there is the other group of people – those of us who dread Christmas. This can be for many…

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Can we still be kind while we are grieving? ?>

Can we still be kind while we are grieving?

By now, we can say with certainty – Grief is a lifetime challenge that surprises us when we least expect it and hits us hard when we seem least prepared. It always keeps us on our toes. It’s a hard road to travel on and some days, the path ahead seems littered with bumps and obstacles. I think we can all agree that we have our hands full with grief in our daily lives. It is one hell of a…

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